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Friday, 15 June 2018

London Calling

Far be it from me to over- sentimentalise anything (ha!), but as I've sat down to write this blog post Louis Armstrong's "Wonderful World" has come onto the radio. I have just realised that my favourite lyric from this song could not be more pertinent to this post, which is handy because I didn't know how I was going to start this one and here we are, four lines in. Thanks, Louis!!

I see friends shaking hands, saying "How do you do?"
They're really saying I love you....

Well, if Louis Armstrong thinks friends asking how you are is an expression of love then we are all feeling very loved at the moment!  The sheer amount of people wishing us luck before the big day and then asking how our appointment at St Thomas's Hospital in London went last Thursday (not just friends actually but professionals involved with Elin too) following our return has bowled us over. I always know that Elin has a team of people behind her, loving her and rooting for her but this was particularly apparent this week. I want to say thank you to everyone who spoke to me about it either beforehand or afterwards. Your interest means more than you can ever know and we are truly grateful. It makes everything just that little bit easier.
I have been saving a full explanation of the appointment for the blog, for anyone who is interested. It's taken a while to get my head around everything that the Neurologist talked with us about and I'm looking forward to getting his report so that I can reiterate it all in my own head. Until then I'll do my best to summarise.
Firstly, getting to London wasn't as bad as we feared. It is a journey we do regularly but not to pretty much directly onto Westminster Bridge! Leaving at three o'clock in the morning was not fun but it did mean that Elin was still very sleepy and had the advantage of night time meds in her system. So she sat beautifully all the way down, which made it much less stressful than it could have been. We got to the Hospital early enough for a parking space and a coffee! So a good start.
I had been nervous that we might not get to see Dr Jean Pierre Lin himself, as the letter stated it could be one of his 'team'. Dystonia forums had reassured me that his team were also excellent but in my heart I really, really wanted to see the main guy. He is the leading Dystonia expert in the country if not the world. When he came into the waiting room to get us I was so relieved! I recognised him from a lecture I had attended by him years before in Manchester, shortly after Elin had been diagnosed. Result!
The next good thing to happen was that Elin decided to dutifully display exactly how her Dystonia affects her within two seconds of being wheeled into Dr Lin's room.  Even though it's never easy to see her like that we were so happy that he and the two physio's and the O.T he had with him would see EXACTLY what we meant when we talked about Elin's seating issues. I needed to know he fully understood what we were talking about- difficult when you don't witness it first hand and not even easy to see on a video. So this was perfect. He also got to witness her immediate release of tension when I finally lifted her out and onto my knee.
Dr Lin was probably the most thorough consultant I have ever met. The appointment lasted three hours. THREE HOURS!! I have to say it made the 12 month wait and the big mission to get there an easier pill to swallow, because it was entirely worth it. We felt that we were being heard. We weren't rushed, he let us speak. He asked all the relevant questions you could hope for about all aspects of Elin's health and life, not just Dystonia related. He did many tests both physical and to see what her capacity for understanding was etc. He told us he believed she had amazing responses, object permeance, anticipatory skills, balance and overall understanding of surroundings. He said he was not expecting her to be so switched on and was hugely complimentary to us as parents (we told him Elin was the amazing one) and to Elin's school, who he could see had clearly been working carefully with her and intensively for years.  It's not that we didn't know these things, but to have a leading UK Neurologist confirm it felt pretty nice!
On to the Dystonia/Seating issue which lets face it is why we were there. Dr Lin believed Elin's major tone to be floppy, not dystonic or stiff. Aside from when sitting she is extremely floppy and relaxed he observed. He began to say that the seating issue was behavioural, at which point I protested- had he not seen her face, how terrific and distressed she was when we first came in? Surely this was an involuntary physical reaction, not a behaviour? He replied it was a bit of both actually and at this point provided a clear reason, for the first time, as to WHY Elin doesn't like her chair. It is, apparently, all to do with knowing where her own body/neck/head is in space. Sometimes, for whatever reason, she just doesn't feel safe in a chair or stander. This is largely to do with her floppy tone and struggling to control her head an neck muscles, which give her the feeling of falling. This is why, when we bend her over in the chair from the waist, she immediately cuts out the movement. She is in the foetal osition. She feels safe, gravity is helping and her neck isn't working to support her head. Her world has closed in around her in that position, so it follows that she feels happy there.
My next question was how come this behaviour presents itself sometimes immediately before she's even properly in the chair- could we really believe Elin was able to  know she was going in her chair and process how she felt about it that day so quickly? Dr Lin said it was clear that Elin is clever enough to anticipate, he had seen that whilst testing her, and that she absolutely knew where she was and what was happening so it was her way of telling us she wasn't up for sitting at that time. He said she also definitely knows that when she begins to thrash around, we will get her out of the chair. So it's a very clever process that is happening with her in this situation. I understood the logic here but struggle to understand why sometimes this is not the case. Why, sometimes, does Elin sit beautifully? Dr Lin said she was a human being with many different factors affecting her every day, moods etc. Sometimes she doesn't want to sit. Sometimes she is ok with it. That's all there is to it.
Whilst all this made more logical sense than anything we have heard before, I must admit I struggled a bit at this point (by struggled I mean I deserve an award for not crying the lump in my throat felt like it was choking me). This was mainly because I was hoping for a magic solution. By that I mean medication. I thought Dr Lin would have the perfect antidote to Elin's movement behaviour patterns in liquid form and we could sort this out for her easily and once and for all. Of course deep down I knew this probably could not happen. As Dr Lin confirmed, we would be medicating for a problem that is only happening sometimes. The rest of the time, Elin is mostly pretty relaxed- though this is partly down to the ant--dystonics she is already on. Throwing another anti-dystonic medication at her would just reduce her tone even more and take some ability and quality of life away from her when she wasn't in seating. She may also become used to any new medication and the problem would still present. Besides, he reasoned, he would always prefer to avoid adding more medication into a child's routine if he could help it.
So no magic wand then. Dr Lin suggested instead that we REDUCE one of Elin's medications. Never in a million years did we think we would come away with a medication reduction. But he thinks that if we gradually reduce her Baclofen (which keeps her floppy) and allow her tone to become a little stiffer, she may begin to use that tone to have more control over her own muscles and her neck and head. This should help her to feel more in control and more safe. It could also improve her ability to interact with technology, use toys, switches and communication aids in the future.
So this is the plan and this is what we will try. We have no idea if it will help in any way, but with the information Dr Lin gave us we are already working with the professionals surround ing Elin, plus the wheelchair service etc to tailor her equipment and care to this idea of keeping her in a closed position instead of an open one. ALAC are adjusting her chair to make the closed position more easy to achieve, so maybe in some small way that will help a little too.
We are seeing Dr Lin again in 12 months and I have no idea where we will be with this by then. Maybe nowhere. Maybe Elin's life will have been revolutionised. Who knows? We have to trust his experience and just see what happens. Nothing else thus far has worked and no other doctor has ever been as comprehensive in explaining the complexity of this awful movement disorder to us after all.
Ultimately though, what we took away from this long awaited appointment was a new perspective on this issue, a major appraisal of Elin's abilities by one of the top Neurologists in the country and, crucially, hope.
"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence"
-Helen Keller.
So let's hope for a better future of sitting for our miracle girl, because when it's good it's very, very good (see above sitting and switching to ask for more bubbles) and when it's bad it's horrid.
Thanks for reading, folks!
xxxx
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Friday, 18 May 2018

Drakes in the Lakes!


To go to the Lake District on holiday and not have to wear your cagoule at least once feels like a bit of an exciting rarity. To go to the Lake District and actually experience such good weather that you’re tempted to get your legs out feels like an absolute miracle!! Welcome to our miracle holiday, for our miracle girl, where sunbathing replaced sheltering from rain showers and everything felt just that little bit wonderful. 
This was our home for the week at the amazing ‘North Lake Lodges’ in Aspatria, Cumbria. Totally private, totally accessible and totally somewhere I could pretend I was a rich Californian with a beach house holiday home! We loved it here. This was a holiday we really needed and we could not have been more lucky with the location or the weather. Definitely time to relax. 
Aspatria actually sounds like somewhere in Italy rather than somewhere ten minutes from Cockermouth! Which was fitting since we could *almost* believe we were abroad the whole week, if we squinted a bit and ignored the very British breeze! Oh- did I mention the hot tub? Yes we had a hot tub. Not just any old hot tub either, one that was undercover with twinkly lights at night time and a plasma TV mounted on the wall. It looked like the Starship Enterprise. I know it’s not the 1980’s and I know it’s not Dallas and hot tubs have probably had their day but I LOVE A HOT TUB!! Haha! One I can watch Netflix in too? Erm.. yes please! But the best thing about it was how much Elin loved it too. She went in it loads and it was amazing to have the room in there for her to have a proper stretch out.
Not being familiar with the area at all we sort of flew by the seat of our pants in deciding where to go and what to do, a friendly local recommended the harbour Maryport on our first full day so we happily followed his advice and weren’t disappointed, it was a lovely little place with beautiful views and even an aquarium for Elin to look around! 
Ok admittedly the aquarium was a bit tired-it was no ‘Sealife Centre’ and actually I think the fish shop in the Grosvenor Garden Centre has a bit more to it! But Elin didn’t care that it looked like someone had stored some tanks of fish in their shed and she did get to stroke a Sting Ray and see some neon pink Jellyfish. In fairness they didn’t charge Paul and I, saying they would put us down as carers which was lovely, plus there was a cafe so really what more can you ask? 
I do love a harbour and this one was particularly beautiful I thought. I could have stayed there all day staring at the boats bobbing up and down. I think Elin really liked the different sounds and smells of being close to the ocean too. 
Did I mention it was so clear we could see Scotland?!???? Wow (Yes Elin is wearing Dinosaur pants because she is progressive/doesn't conform to gender stereotypes and Disnosaur's can be for girls too, ok?!? Ummm plus we just really love how pretty brightly coloured Dinosaur's look hahaha) 
On our second full day we took things easy and went for a look around Cockermouth. We found the house where Wordsworth lived, and more importantly than that a gorgeous coffee shop. Wordsworth’s house wasn’t accessible, but I’ll forgive the architects of 1770 for not having the foresight to stick a few ramps and wide doors in when they built it. Elin wasn’t bothered anyway, she’s more of a Dylan Thomas fan to be honest. It was worth a look though, especially the gardens.

The better-than-Wordsworths-house coffee shop. Show me an Americano in the sun and I’ll show you one happy Mummy!
So... maybe you’re wondering about Elin’s dystonia? Well I think the reason why we loved this holiday so much wasn’t just the weather, it was the fact that largely Elin’s dystonia stayed away. This, of course, was amazing given the weeks we’ve had recently. We think it’s to do with the addition of a full length back cushion in her chair, which helps to break her muscle tone patterns. It wasn’t fool proof but was particularly effective when travelling in the car, which made everything so much easier, especially the three hour journey to get to Aspatria. Just brilliant. 
I don’t know about you but when I think of the Lake District this is really what I imagine. This is Keswick, where we haven’t been before and where we would definitely go again. It was stunning.
We even got to take Elin on a 50 minute boat ride across Derwent lake which she LOVED and so did we. Talk about peaceful. I could have sat on it all day!

Elin was so happy here, I think the fact that it was term time really helped as it was relatively quiet. Bliss. 
You can see the boat we went on in the background of the below photo. I love this photo- it looks like it has a filter on but it really doesn't, the light was just so so beautiful. Amazing.
Elin REALLY loves the ducks and geese and all their funny noises! She did great listening. 
The really good thing, we realised, about being in an open plan lodge was that Elin could be with us even when we needed to be in the Kitchen. This is something we will definitely be considering when looking at moving house! So lovely. 
Elin’s (very apt) suitcase is nearly as big as her! This was taken just before we left and Elin was definitely the only one smiling! There’s nothing worse than leaving a lovely holiday! But we will absolutely be holding onto this one for a long time, a rest, re-charge and relax and proof that a change of scenery really can give you a different perspective. Things had started to feel a bit heavy for various reasons lately, but it seems there’s very little a (fairly) dystonia- free week in the sun won’t fix. 
As if all that wasn’t quite enough, Elin sat so beautifully on the way home that we managed to call in on her brand new baby niece. Meet Miss Agnes Beatrice Wendy Drake (sister to Gruff with whom you’ll be familiar if you are a regular blog reader!) Cracking end to a cracking week.

Thank you for your continued interest in our miracle girl.
Hope you had a good week too, folks.
Xxx





























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Tuesday, 8 May 2018

Hurricane Dystonia

The calm before the 'storm'..........

Every so often, Elin's dystonia will really get me down. Most of the time you just manage it as best you can and take the good times as and when they come. Sometimes, though,  it's impossible not to get a bit overwhelmed by the situation. Usually this happens after a really good spell, so you are reminded of how much easier life is when Elin's dystonia isn't bothering her and she will just sit happily in a chair. It doesn't feel like a lot to ask and yet the simple fact that Elin can quite often find it impossible to sit in her wheelchair has made, and continues to make, life really agonisingly difficult sometimes.
It's not the disability, ironically. Aside from the lifting, you can get really used to life when someone in your family has wheels where their feet should be. We have hoists, we have an adapted car, most places we would want to visit these days are disability-friendly. But show me a dystonic girl and your world can suddenly feel very small, since there is a Catch 22 of a 9 year old child who can't walk but can't sit in a wheelchair either.
It's heartbreaking for Elin, she loves to be out and about and nosey and sociable - when she is dystonia free. But if it has hold of her doing almost anything/going anywhere is either a huge mission or just impossible, especially now she is so big. She needs to be lifted in and out of her chair every five minutes. It's hard.
I get asked a lot what dystonia does to Elin when I'm trying to explain it. I think until you see it, it's hard to imagine. Elin will start by pushing down through her feet onto her chair footplate. Her head will start whipping from side to side. Her arms will fling out, repeatedly. Then the all-over body shaking, red face and gasping for breath will start. It looks pretty much like a full on epileptic seizure . Absolutely awful to see and god only knows how it feels for poor Elin. I would upload a video but that would feel like an invasion of Elin's privacy and besides you probably wouldn't want to see it. Needless to say when it takes hold there's no stopping it until you take her out of the chair, at which point thankfully she will relax. It's just that taking her out of her chair is no longer as easy as it once was- my bad back is testament to that. However the worst part has to be the car journeys.
Travelling anywhere when Elin is in the grip of dystonia becomes traumatic, stressful and upsetting. This weekend we were blessed with rare bank holiday sunshine and we decided to go the beach (given that we can never go far we are incredibly lucky to live an hour from the North Wales coast- it's so stunning) Elin's dystonia had actually been amazing all week, following a few awful weeks, so we thought we were winning. She was great on the way there, I couldn't wait to get her out and go for a gorgeous roll along the seafront. But for whatever reason (and there is no reason, or pattern, as far as any of us can tell) she just stopped being able to sit shortly before we arrived. Thoughts of walks were abandoned as we had to stop every few seconds to re-position Elin and make sure she wasn't damaging herself. In the end I found a bench where I could lift her out and Paul went back for the car to drive the rest of the length of the prom to get to the beach.  We parked her chair as close to the beach as we could then carried her down and quickly got her onto a picnic blanket, which thankfully she was able to relax and enjoy before eventually having to concede to the dreaded and traumatic journey home. I sit next to Elin's wheelchair in the back of the car now so I can attempt to comfort her. Nothing much works apart from bending her forward, so she's leaning right over her own knees, with my arm stretched around her back as I try and twist sideways to do so from my seat belted position. Not fun.
In June we finally have a meeting with the UK's leading expert on dystonia, Dr Lin at the Evalina Children's Hospital in London. It is a great irony that we have to travel for hours to get some advice, when travelling for hours is the one thing Elin can't do, but we really feel we need an opinion from someone who may have seen it in this particular form before. Keep your fingers crossed for us!
I share this post with tags in the hope it will reach someone else on the wonderful world wide web who is going through this. Most of the dystonia I have come across so far has not taken this form of being triggered by seating or standing frames (and yes we have tried every seat and wheelchair under the sun). If you're reading this and it sounds familiar please get in touch, I feel your pain!
In the meantime until we find a cure, if there even is one, we just have to continue to 'manage', which now unfortunately has started to mean thinking very carefully about where we are able to go and what we are able to do as a family more than ever following her growth spurt. I find myself struggling to say I wish Elin wasn't disabled because it feels like a betrayal of who she is, it feels like saying I want her to be someone else somehow, that she's not good enough- and that feels wrong. But I do wish with all my heart that she didn't have dystonia, right now I'd give my right arm to be able to go on a simple day out without it turning into a nightmare of epic proportion and without the three of us ending up exhausted and upset. It would be awesome to go for a walk without having to get a babysitter, to just do some really mundane ordinary stuff as a family together. It's like being hit by a Tornado, you have no idea it's coming you just have to hope for the best, wait for it to pass and deal with the results in it's wake. Probably no coincidence that bad attacks of dystonia are known as 'Dystonic Storms'. To go for a stroll on a bank holiday Monday instead of being house -bound (thank god for the garden) would be amazing. It doesn't feel like a lot to ask really, given what Elin deals with every single day with a smile on her face. She just deserves better. I hope the great and powerful Wizard Dr Lin can help and our trip in June isn't wasted! Because getting out and about and taking Elin to lovely places along with the rest of the world on a sunny bank holiday is something which I, in the words of Dorothy Gale, think I miss most of all.
On the plus side I must be developing arm muscle tone to rival Venus and Serena- no need for a gym membership when you have a dystonic nine year old! Every cloud. 
Have a lovely week, folks.
xxxxx



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Tuesday, 17 April 2018

No place like home?

Recently I was asked to write a review of the disabled facilities at Chester's 'Storyhouse' for the fab website 'Euan's Guide'. Euan's Guide is the leading disabled access review website in the U.K. It is an award-winning sight built by disabled people for disabled people and is also a registered charity.
 Euan's Guide aims to inspire people with limited mobility to try new places. The website was founded in 2013 by Euan and Kiki Macdonald, after Euan became a power chair user following a diagnosis of Motor Neurone Disease. Since Euan's Guide uses reviews from members of the public who have actually visited venues around the UK, it means wheelchair users can get an honest cross section of opinion about the accessibility of venues, rather than just what the 'official' websites for said venues state.
It can be frustrating and time consuming to rely on trial and error when choosing where to visit if you have a disabled person in your party. There is quite a distinct lack of information in general on the web regarding places with appropriate disabled access. Also, what works for manual wheelchairs may not always work for power chairs or mobility scooters and many web pages citing disabled access at their venue don't make detailed enough distinctions.
That's another reason why Euan's Guide is so handy, each review clearly states who was visiting and what their specific needs were at the time. As we are going to Edinburgh in the Summer, I will definitely be trawling Euan's Guide to see the recommendations for families in our situation. Euan's Guide states that is aims to remove 'the fear of the unknown' for disabled people visiting a venue for the first time and I think it has definitely achieved this aim with a wonderful vision by Euan and Kiki. It's not until you stumble across something so useful that you wonder why on earth you never googled it before!
Finally, the reviews on Euan's Guide are concise, honest, friendly and empowering. I would encourage anyone in our position to take a look and more importantly to add your own reviews to Euan's Guide, from coffee shops to museums, hotels, shops and everything in between. Sharing your experience might just give someone an invaluable helping hand in deciding where to spend their down-time in the best place available, wherever they are.
Reviews for Euan's Guide are super-easy to write and upload. The link below is my first review for Euan's Guide, of Storyhouse in Chester. Regular blog readers will be unsurprised that I highly recommend a visit! It is my own home away from home and the first place I found that I not only love in it's own right, but a place I can share with Elin too whenever we want to just hang out somewhere as a family. Not all outings have to be about a big mission or a big day out. Sometimes we want to just go and have coffee in a home away from home- somewhere where there is a supportive and accessible environment to simply watch the world go by in. Thank you Storyhouse for providing that for us. Thank you Euan's Guide for enabling us to share it :-)
https://www.euansguide.com/venues/storyhouse-chester-8263/reviews/their-house-is-everyones-house-7271



xxxxx
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Monday, 2 April 2018

Happy Easter!

 
Happy Easter everyone!
Elin has had a lovely first week off school. She’s been shopping and for a walk by the river. She’s seen family and friends and had a super productive physio session. We can really see that she is making small improvements toward working on her head control and balance now. It feels great to see even more progress by her lately, we are so proud! 
There has been good sitting and not so good sitting. But mainly good!
She has even managed cuddles with her favourite person! Caitlin is home for one week only from Drama College, since she has been asked to assist the current third year group with their dissertations, so she has to be back in London for the majority of the Easter break to rehearse. Their dissertations involve writing ,directing and producing a show from scratch which they then ask a handful of students from the first and second year to perform in. This time next year Caitlin will be preparing to graduate and it will be her putting together her own show! Eeeek! She has come home with yet another amazing termly report and the whole family is so proud of what she is achieving. She is working so hard. I think Elin just  wishesLondon was a little closer! 
 
Finally Elin had a fantastic session at The Movement Centre with the final fitting for her new standing frame, which we will be using in conjunction with a basic physio programme to gradually encourage and hopefully improve head control. It was a stress free appointment as there was no Dystonia in sight and Elin looked great in her frame. She has had some new boots and callipers which also work really well for her and promote a better foot position when standing than her current splints and boots. So it’s all looking good, now the hard work starts with daily standing frame sessions after school each day. On Thursday, Elin looked ready for the challenge! 
 
Hope you’ve all had a great Easter weekend despite the STILL appocolyptic weather! Paul and I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary on Good Friday with a lovely meal out and a red wine list that was a little TOO good, so I was busy feeling the effects of that on Easter Saturday! Oops! But you know what’s good for a hangover? Chocolate eggs 😊 How lucky is that? 
Thanks for reading, have a great week.
Ruth xx
 
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